雖然我也不曉得為什麼，或許是對方不想看到我的動態，或許是結婚生小孩去了。但我不會因為這件事情氣餒，相反的，我在國外這邊的生活裡面，多了很多不同國家的”朋友”，有阿富汗的、有哥斯大黎加的、有俄羅斯的、有越南的，有韓國的。
我在這裡說，我不是要炫耀自己交友廣闊，而是我意識到...現實中的朋友帶給我的真實感。如果現實中朋友忽然不理我，我在情緒起伏上會比較大，但是如果網路上的朋友忽然不理我，我會想說，”他可能在忙”。我知道社群媒體帶給我的”精神毒癮”，後來我漸漸比較少上網，反而專注在進修自己跟創作(文字創作或是圖像創作)，這讓我了解到....越是關注自己正在發生的事情，喜悅感就會越大，而且持續越久。
或許有些人每天6小時以上都在滑手機，看訊息，我以前很在意手機上的通知提示，後來我全部關掉，為什麼？因為我為什麼要被手機約束，被社群媒體約束。如果我正在專心工作呢？忽然手機通知訊息來了，螢幕亮了，看到”誰按我讚、誰留言給我”我又馬上去回，這下就打亂了工作步調，應該是手機是我的工具，我需要的時候再看就好。但是，可想而知，大部分人都是這樣，睡覺前帶手機、上洗手間帶手機等等。
花更多時間到現實生活中交朋友，是不是更好？因為很多人已經養成”精神毒癮”的習慣，有訊息就會想看，有按讚就想回(曾經就有朋友跟我說過，他很在意別人在網路上對他的評價，他會失眠)，這個就是所謂的”被關注的感覺，很愉悅”，這都是短暫的快樂，網路上的朋友情感聯繫也不強，要是真的需要幫忙，對方也不見得會幫你。
這段時間，我戒掉了”網路癮”，雖然過程中還是會忍不住想看一下，但後來我強迫自己把想看的時間拿來聽”有聲書”，把想回訊息的時間拿來閱讀，如此運作下來。我也發現我打字又變快了，本來一分鐘打80字，現在一分鐘可以打110字...我畫畫速度也變快了...縮短了三分之一的時間。這些都是我戒掉了”網路癮”多出的時間。我之前有計算過，我每次滑手機看手機的時間，一天下來至少1-2個小時以上，那是很多的時間....現在不同。我的手機會自動統計使用APP的分佈時間，現在明顯上網一天不會超過2小時，我也覺得很不可思議，反正戒掉進步就變快，朋友也變多了，因為你有時間去充分表達自己的想法跟處理現實中的社交行為。
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[Recently, I have deleted a few friends from FB, but...]
Although I don't know why, maybe the other party doesn't want to see my news, or maybe it's because I got married and had children. But I will not be discouraged by this incident. On the contrary, in my life abroad, I have many more "friends" from different countries, including Afghanistan, Costa Rica, Russia, and other countries. Vietnamese and Korean.
I'm saying here that I'm not trying to brag about the vastness of my friendships, but I'm realizing...the real sense of reality that friends bring to me. If my friends suddenly ignore me in real life, I will have a lot of emotional ups and downs, but if my friends on the Internet suddenly ignore me, I will want to say, "He may be busy." I know the "mental drug addiction" that social media brought me. Later, I gradually became less surfing the Internet, and instead focused on self-study and creation (word creation or image creation), which made me realize.... Pay attention to what is happening to you, and the joy will be greater and last for longer.
Maybe some people are swiping their phones and reading messages for more than 6 hours a day. I used to care about notifications on my phone, but then I turned them off. Why? Because why am I bound by my phone, bound by social media. What if I'm concentrating on work? Suddenly a notification message came from my mobile phone, the screen lit up, and when I saw "Who likes me, who leaves a message for me", I went back immediately, which disrupted the pace of work. It should be my mobile phone that I need. See you later. However, it is conceivable that most people are like this, bringing their mobile phones to bed before going to bed, taking their mobile phones to the bathroom, and so on.
Wouldn't it be better to spend more time making friends in real life? Because many people have developed the habit of "mental drug addiction", they want to read if they have a message, and want to return if they like it (a friend once told me that he is very concerned about other people's comments on him on the Internet, and he will Insomnia), this is the so-called "feeling of being noticed, very pleasant", this is a short-lived happiness, and the emotional connection of friends on the Internet is not strong, if you really need help, the other party may not help you.
During this period of time, I got rid of "Internet addiction". Although I still couldn't help but want to read it during the process, but then I forced myself to use the time I wanted to read to listen to the "audio book", and the time I wanted to return to the message. Take it to read, and it works like this. I also found that I typed faster again. I used to type 80 words a minute, but now I can type 110 words a minute... My drawing speed is also faster... a third of the time. These are all the extra time I have since I got rid of my "Internet addiction". I have calculated before that every time I swipe my phone to look at my phone, I spend at least 1-2 hours a day, that's a lot of time....Now it's different. My mobile phone will automatically count the distribution time of using the APP. Now it is obvious that the Internet will not exceed 2 hours a day. I also think it is incredible. Anyway, after quitting, the progress will be faster, and the number of friends will also increase, because you have time to fully express yourself. thinking and dealing with real-world social behavior.
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